Tips for Making Connections

Regular chats with friends and family can help to combat loneliness. Just talking to someone in that moment can really help when you feel alone – and also help the person you contact. Try to do this regularly, as most of us love hearing from others, plus being more sociable might make it easier to reach out when you notice any signs of loneliness. Messaging old friends and colleagues or creating a group chat on apps like WhatsApp or Messenger are good ways to feel more connected. 

Being part of a group or club is a great way to connect with and meet people. Look for groups to join in person or online that focus on things you like or activities you would like to try. You can find information about local groups on the council website. Our new Community Information Hub also allows users to search for information about events and organisations on a map. Remember—if you're already in a group make sure you welcome others and involve them, as it can really help anyone who might be shy or lack confidence when meeting new people.

Filling your time doing things you like might be a way to stop you from focusing on your loneliness, which can improve your wellbeing. Spending time outdoors in green spaces, exercise or sport, reading, and listening to podcasts and radio shows are great ways to boost your mood and occupy your mind. To find out about the free services available through our libraries (including films, books, and magazines) visit our libraries or look at our online resources.

Talking more openly about how loneliness affects you can really help. Hearing a familiar voice or seeing a friendly face can also make us feel less isolated. Try not to compare yourself with others. Some people only share the good things happening to them, especially on social media, so comparing yourself to others can make you feel lonelier. Plus, we can never be sure of what someone else is going through. Remember—someone might not say that they’re feeling lonely or isolated. It’s important to try and “read between the lines” and offer support if you think someone needs it. Not everyone will want to be helped or helped in the way you think is best; there’s no “one-size fits all” approach to this issue. Remember to be kind to yourself. 

If you need additional support, please reach out. You can find out about the organisations and resources available to you on the council website.

Think about people you know who might be feeling lonely and try to connect with them, which might also make you feel less lonely too. If you pass someone you recognise, try smiling and say hello. And if you start chatting, could you swap phone numbers or     suggest joining or setting up a local group together? Getting to know people in your area can help with social isolation, especially when moving somewhere new. Arranging to meet new friends in a safe, public place for a walk outside, or inviting someone out for a cup of tea or coffee can be a great way to help lift each other out of loneliness. It might be harder for people who’ve been lonely for a while to be open to connecting, so give them time to respond to your friendly contact. Volunteering is also a great way to meet people, and seeing the benefits of your actions can really help to boost your mental wellbeing.

 To find out about volunteering opportunities in the borough, visit our volunteering page.